Thinking is a fabulous thing – it’s so useful to identify and solve problems, to analyse, brainstorm and find solutions…
Which works if the thoughts we are thinking are helpful and we know that they are helpful because of the way we feel …
If we are feeling happy and excited we are more than likely to be thinking positive thoughts or thoughts that serve us.
But alternatively, if we are feeling sad, depressed or anxious there is a fair chance that we are thinking negatively or having thoughts that are unhelpful.
Thanks, Kath for pointing out the obvious! (I hear you say but keep reading)
But is it obvious when we are all caught up in the moment of thinking the thoughts?
It's like the horse has bolted before we even know that we can shut the gate!
That is when our thinking has then become unconscious and a habit.
I’m bringing this up today because in midlife we have had so many years to think, so many experiences both good and bad, traumas, broken hearts and dashed expectations – we can be thinking in ways that:
😐Keep us small and stuck in situations that we are sick and tired of
😐Make us feel unhappy
😐Can’t see new possibilities or pathways to exciting new things
😐Are a narrow view
😐Stop us from healing or taking charge of a situation
😐Stop us from leaving or saying no
😐Lead us to 'think' that things are harder than are.
You probably notice this in your friends or family (we can often see this clearly in others).
I see this first hand with the women I work with and know how much this is costing them, like …
👎Not going for things like jobs and new relationships
👎Losing their confidence and self-esteem
👎Not speaking out when they want to or know they need to
👎Not looking after themselves leading to health issues
👎Lack of trust in their own decisions and personal intuition
👎Generally being walked all over by their kids, partners or workmates
The good news is with some awareness, mindfulness and loving guidance any situation can be transformed by thinking differently.
If this speaks to you and you would like some freedom from these old thought patterns to get the peace, purpose and fulfilment that you deserve - let me knowy and I will send you all the details.