WHAT YOU WANT MOST...YOU ALREADY HAVE
What the?? I hear you say, what’s this woo woo…it is simply not possible!! If I have it, how come I haven’t got it??
…hear me out…
Working with clients, chatting with my friends, being part of personal development groups and grappling with this myself. I have come to know, that at the heart of what we really want, at its deepest level, not the external things, but in what we really want for ourselves, we already have.
The experiences at the core of our being like peace, kindness, fun, love, joy, fearlessness or being powerful, to name a few, what we are searching for…we actually already have!
It is simple, that what calls to you the most is what you really are in your true essence. It’s what you suppress or don’t think you are the most…. it’s there just waiting, while you think you haven’t got it, it calls to you often and as you deny it, the calls get stronger. This is where the frustration and the unhappiness kicks in and dissatisfaction grows...the searching.
And instead of answering the call by noticing, you feel the distance is too great and what you want most feels as far away as it’s ever been…the gap seems to get wider.
But no matter how far away it seems, it is there, waiting for you to notice and reconnect with who you want to be the most and the possibility that you want to be is already yours.
If it is peace, that intense desire for peace indicates that peace is already waiting for you…it will take some self-awareness, it will take some re-connection and self-reflection. There are all sorts of ways of getting back to it, but it can be as easy as acknowledging “that what you want is already yours” and the uncomfortableness of being apart or separate from it, is actually an indication that what you are thinking that you are apart from is what you already have.
I’ve noticed that when clients, friends or colleagues are searching for a purpose or feeling in their lives, that they are actually 'that' already and it shines through whatever pain they are feeling, the behaviours, the actions, the words…they just can’t notice it in themselves. It doesn’t take any particular training to notice it in others just being present…but it does take some self-awareness to recognise it within yourself.
It all began when as a child or adolescent we made decisions about ourselves, that we are bad, wrong, not good enough etc and that we are not who we really are in essence, and we keep finding evidence to support those decisions and it rules our life until we make another more conscious decision, usually when life gets to painful for us to endure any longer.
How? I hear you cry…
How do you want to be? Simply relax and ask yourself what do I want most, how do I want to be and the first words that pop into your consciousness are your personal truth….
Then share with others (trusted peeps) what you most desire to be and I will be very surprised if they don’t see in you, what you want most already, plus some other important things you haven’t acknowledged…yet!
Notice what’s in the way of what you want…some old story, what old way of being, habit, what someone told us, and now really own that you have been keeping yourself separate from who you really are and what you really want.
Being our own fully expressed, beautiful self, is having what you want and being ourselves completely. The world needs us to be our full self, our kids, families, communities, work places need us to be true to what we most want for ourselves, to own and believe that what we are is enough...plus it feels really, really good!
Know that just by being yourself completely, you will have what you’ve always wanted.
How would that be for you?